Temper Tantrums | Part One

We’ve all been there…you’re standing in line to check out at the grocery store, cart full, when your toddler reaches her breaking point. Mayday, Mayday! It’s meltdown central! These moments can be some of the most frustrating and embarrassing for a parent to handle. Do I abandon my cart and retreat back to the car? Do I scold my child and soldier on? Are people watching (or judging) my parenting? 

Tantrums are a natural phase of development for your one, two, and three year old child. But with the proper tools and information, you can begin to manage these moments with confidence.   

Why Do Tantrums occur? 

Tantrums often happen when a child experiences an overwhelming emotion. Perhaps your child is feeling frustrated, angry, or fearful. A tantrum is a natural way for your toddler to express these emotions, particularly because they lack the language to express them in an appropriate way. Remember that a toddler has yet to develop their self control. Other reasons for a tantrum include not getting their way or not being able to process what their adult is saying. 

What conditions can contribute to a tantrum? 

Toddlers are less able to hold themselves together when they are hungry, tired, or uncomfortable. Being sick, frustrated, or anxious can also trigger a tantrum. While we feel frustrated with a toddler’s behavior, we have to remember that we have a refined sense of self control. Your toddler hasn’t reached this point in their development just yet! 

How can I prevent a tantrum from happening?

We have some great tips and tricks to avoid a tantrum from happening. You might try these strategies with your family!

• Avoid stressful situations that have been known to frustrate your child 
• Make sure your child has a healthy snack! Being hungry can lower your child’s coping ability. 
• Pick your Nos. Saying no to everything can make a child feel powerless and out of control.  
• Give your child a chance to express their feelings if they’re able. Help them find the words if necessary. Give your child your full attention. Make them feel heard.
• Don’t over schedule your toddler. Give your child opportunities to rest and recharge. None of us are at our best when we’re exhausted! 

And finally, give yourself grace when your child throws a tantrum, especially when they happen in a public place! Tantrums are a loud show of frustration by your child– but rest assured you’re doing your absolute best to manage them. Your toddler will outgrow this behavior. You’ll be cruising through the checkout in no time!